Category Archives: Sexuality

Stephen Fry: Out There

stephen-fry-out-thereStephen Fry has spent the last two years travelling the world to confront “notorious homophobes” in order “to challenge their prejudices and to find out where their hatred comes from”.

As a homosexual man himself, it was entirely understandable that Stephen Fry took the poisonous opinions he encountered in Uganda and Los Angeles as personal attacks. Nonetheless, I was surprised at how quickly he allowed himself to be drawn into a slanging match, his gravitas deserting him minutes into a debate with Ugandan pastor Solomon Male. It was all much too shouty and felt like the opportunity for instructive discussion had been lost. Later, in an invective-filled session with the Ugandan State Minister for Integrity and Ethics, Fry resorted to childish taunts: “Homosexuality is fantastic. You should try it, it’s really good fun.” This, surely, was not the best way to counter deep-rooted prejudice.

Fry was much better when talking to the victims of homophobia, his lugubrious lilt and gentle smile simultaneously drawing out the truth and conveying compassion. You also sensed that this outward demeanour masked a very real personal pain. For all the progress made in the UK, where homosexuality was legalised in 1967 and where gay marriage will be legal from next year, there are still 84 countries that continue to view it as a crime. Farshad, a 28-year-old Iranian, told Fry how he was forced to flee his homeland for having a gay relationship and had since considered suicide. In Los Angeles, he met Dan Gonzales, who had undergone reparative therapy to try and “cure” his homosexuality, only to discover, unsurprisingly, that he could not simply be talked into switching his sexuality.

The fiery confrontations between Fry and extreme homophobes – characters more suited to a Louis Theroux documentary – might have made for more entertaining television but they had no place in a serious debate about sexuality. Stories like Farshad’s and Gonzales’s need to be heard, if equality is ever to prevail. Fry must reassess his hectoring approach if he is to remain the man to tell them. (source:

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Teens Hooked on Porn

teens_hooked_on_pornWe’re growing to learn a lot about how human sexuality has changed these days at the hands of twisted psychopaths like Max Hardcore and Rob Black.

We’re looking at a sexuality that has gone way over the line where young girls and even grown up women would like their boyfriends or husbands to invite 10 of their friends over for a dinner together that always ends up in an orgy? .. or that shoving a girl’s head in the toilet during sex was a suave move?

The verdict is that we’re — sadly — raising a generation of…”wankers” that are more into watching adult videos rather than dating a girl, where love relationships tend to be a thing of the past. Not only young men consume pornography but also young women and basically this industry is “consumed” by people of all ages and genders. An entire generation has had their sexual fantasies hijacked by this stuff.

Teens Hooked on Porn is a BBC documentary that aired in 2007, a rather disturbing look at what’s happening to people just because of their pornography addiction. The pimple-faced young men portrayed in this documentary, sad to say, are going to have no idea what to do with a real girl when they have the chance if they ever will have much of an interest to even date a girl. And frankly, what girl would want anything to do with them?

Taboo The Beginning of Erotic Cinema

Taboo The Beginning of Erotic CinemaAdult Themes Throughout – Taboo The Beginning of Erotic Cinema is a documentary on the history and beginnings of the adult film industry, an insightful journey that takes Erotic Film to a different dimension.

The great myth of erotic cinema is that its creation began in the 1970s with movies like “Deep Throat” but nothing could be further from the truth. As soon as moving camera were invented, people starting using them to make pornographic films.

Refer to them as artists, pioneers, Voyeurs or pornographers but the early amateur film makers behind these short films pave the way for the multi-billion dollar adult industry which along the years has become one of the most powerful and profitable  industry around the world. Once you have a target audience, the sales will always start rolling in. The adult industry has always been profitable to high degrees. (The documentary contains adult entertainment images that may not be suitable for children).

Sex In A Cold Climate

Steve Humphries’ Sex in a Cold Climate is a documentary denouncing the Magdalene Asylums, which were operated by Catholic nuns in Ireland for over 100 years, caused an uproar when it was televised in England in March 1998 as part of Channel Four’s Witness series. An estimated three million people watched the documentary, one of the highest figures ever recorded for the series. A help line was set up, which received calls from almost 450 women who had experienced abuse and trauma through the Magdalene Asylums and the Catholic Church. The documentary was blacklisted by the Irish network RTE and to this date has never been officially aired in Ireland.

Mr. Humphries has produced over 80 social-history documentaries and written 20 books based on ordinary people’s life stories. But he insists that Sex in a Cold Climate is the most important story he’s told yet. “The shame of being a Magdalene still runs so deep in Ireland nobody would talk. It was only women who’d later escaped to England who were prepared to talk. This is the film I’m most proud of. There were Magdalene Asylums all over the world, especially in Catholic countries, so this film has relevance to a lot of people.”

One of the viewers of Mr. Humphries’ controversial 1998 film was actor-writer-director Peter Mullan. Mr. Mullan was so inspired by the documentary that he decided to direct own his fictional version on the subject, entitled The Magdalene Sisters , which was released in 2002 in the U.S. to rave reviews.

So what really went on in the Magdalene Asylums? In some cases, the women-many in their early teens-washed and scrubbed and ironed laundry from 6 in the morning to 6 at night, six or seven days a week, with a day off on Sunday (for incessant prayer, of course) and a day off for Christmas. The laundries were very profitable for the church, but the female “sinners” were paid nothing for years and decades of hard labor. The Magdalenes were not arrested, tried, or convicted for any crime; they were simply “detained”.

In the mid-19th century, secular asylums in Ireland were taken over by the Catholic Church and converted into Magdalene Asylums. They were originally intended to serve as a refuge for prostitutes, but their numbers grew, along with the number of abandoned children due to the Potato Famine. The industrial orphanages that arose as a consequence were exposed long ago for their cruelties in the treatment meted out to their helpless charges. Yet amazingly, the last Magdalene Asylum didn’t close until 1996.

These supposed Brides of Christ took charge of women from poor or nonexistent families, some for having children out of wedlock, others for having “provoked” their own rapes by possessing potentially “sinful” attributes, still others for simply being judged too dangerously attractive to avoid being plunged into sin with pitifully susceptible males. Curiously, oversexed boys and men were never consigned to monasteries to repent of their sins, and as we’ve now come to know, misbehaving priests were never, ever disciplined.

Phyllis Valentine, Brigid Young, Martha Cooney and Christina Mulcahy are the four eloquent real-life Magdalene “penitents” featured in Sex in a Cold Climate. Ms. Young describes how a priest at confession masturbated on her dress and then walked away as if nothing had happened; the young virginal girl was too inexperienced to know if anything had. Ms. Valentine was delivered to the asylum because she was considered “too pretty” and therefore a moral danger to herself and others. Ms. Cooney was incarcerated after she complained that a cousin had sexually molested her. It was her fault, of course. But most moving of all was the story of Christina Mulcahy, who agreed to talk about her experiences only because a diagnosis of terminal cancer had freed her from the prospect of any long-term stigma she’d inevitably have to carry. Mulcahy was torn away from her illegitimate baby while she was still breast-feeding him, on the grounds that she was an unfit mother. The baby was placed for adoption with a “good Catholic family,” and Mulcahy was whisked off to the Magdalene Asylum with baby’s milk still in her breasts. She searched for her abducted son for much of the rest of her life, and was finally reunited with him shortly before her death in 1997.

Sex in a Cold Climate highlights the complicity between society at large and a so-called holy organization that fostered a class of women steeped in shame and self-loathing, preventing all but a very few from finally bearing witness to their suffering.

Sex for Sale: American Escort

Type the words “the girlfriend experience” into your favorite search engine. Within seconds, you’ll find ads promising companionship by the hour. Much of the sex industry has moved online. Today, an entire workforce of women is just an internet connection and a phone call away. National Geographic’s Mariana van Zeller journeys to the heart of the American escort industry and uncovers the gritty reality behind the supply and demand of high end sex work.

Mariana heads to Las Vegas, ground zero for the escort underworld. Here, high-end escorts like Sarah explain how they cultivate their illegal business online. As an independent escort, Sarah calls the shots and commands big money from clients. Yet for many women, a much different reality awaits.

Las Vegas Vice Detective Chris Baughman is on his way to investigate another pimp. He says that the image of glamour and luxury that high-end escorts project is a part of the problem. For the majority of men, “what they’re getting isn’t some knockout that lives in a penthouse, that saves all her money and has the little toy poodle. It’s the same girl that’s getting beat. That’s being threatened.” His mission: to dismantle the Las Vegas sex industry — one pimp at a time.

Not far from the bright lights and bustle of the Las Vegas strip, Mariana sits hidden in a van in a parking lot beneath a highway overpass. She is investigating an office building that houses call centers for dozens of escort agencies. These agencies send girls to hotel rooms for private lap dances, and as long as they don’t advertise prostitution, they’re protected by free speech laws. We can’t get the agencies to talk to us, so we go undercover to learn what’s really going on behind closed doors.